All posts by Jeremiah Miller

The Blessing Of Difficult People

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I was a college wrestler at Cal Poly, then, I got into MMA. I fought in 99 and 2000 out of SLO Kickboxing with Scott Adams, Chuck Liddell, Gan McGee, and a bunch of other tough dudes.

Back then, we had this saying. “Going into a fight, everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face.” The idea was that no matter how hard we trained and sparred in practice, no matter how well prepared we thought we were, something changed when you stepped into the cage to fight another guy who wanted nothing more than to kick your ass. Read More

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Why You Need Painful Consequences

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As children, immediate consequences were a regular part of our lives. Step out of line at school and get detention. Step out of line at home, maybe you got grounded, maybe you got a smack. When I got busted, grounding was my typical punishment….although, my mom did introduce my butt to the wooden spoon a time or two when I got really out of hand.

It was the immediate, and sometimes painful feedback of those consequences that taught us what the rules were and made us take them seriously. And for the most part they worked.

But that’s not how it is as adults. Read More

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The Secret To Leading A Purposeful Life

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You don’t “discover” your life’s purpose.

It’s not like it’s buried somewhere and It’s up to you to Indiana Jones your way through the jungle to a trap-filled ruins to dig it up, dust it off and hold it above your head in triumph…BEHOLD! !

Purpose isn’t something outside of yourself that you have to be fortunate to stumble across.

Purpose is a choice.

You pick your purpose. Read More

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3 Reasons Why You Need An Accountabilibuddy

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Who holds you accountable? If you’re like most people, the answer is nobody. Correct that, most people hold themselves accountable, which is just another way of saying nobody.

After seven years of leadership coaching, and 41 years of living, I’ve learned that human beings are very bad at holding themselves accountable to accomplishing long-term goals.

Here’s why: Read More

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How To Overcome Your Limiting Beliefs

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I used to be really bad at remembering names. Now I’m not.

I used to hate being in cold water and being cold in general. Now I don’t.

I used to be physically inflexible, I couldn’t even sit cross-legged. Now I can.

I used to be unable to have faith in a God I couldn’t see. Now I do.

If you had asked me about any of these problems back then, I would have told you “that’s just the way I am” or “that’s just how I am wired.” I thought these things were out of my control; that there was nothing I could do to change them. Then, a few years ago, I learned that I was wrong. Read More

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Your Big Idea Is Worthless

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I hate to break it to you, but your big idea is worthless.

You know, that idea you’ve had for a book, or business, or product. The one you’ve talked about for years. The one your family/friends/coworkers are sick of hearing about. Yeah, that one.

Now, it’s not worthless because it’s a bad idea. It’s actually pretty cool.

And it’s not worthless because you are incapable of pulling it off. You actually have a decent chance.

It’s worthless because it’s just an idea. Read More

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The Three Root Causes of Failure

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Failure comes in all shapes and sizes.

There are small failures, like the time in college when I had my new girlfriend over for dinner and served her a homemade strawberry milkshake that included chopped up bits of wooden spoon that I accidently blended in. I told her those bits were just strawberry seeds.

And there are big failures, like when I was the President of a mortgage company and lead it into bankruptcy, letting a lot of people down along the way.

But no matter the specifics or scope, all failures are the result of three root causes: lack of strategy, lack of effort, and lack of courage.

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The Three Big Lies That Are Keeping You Stuck

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You are being lied to.

We all have beliefs that hold us back and keep us from building truly remarkable lives. I call these limiting beliefs.

We pick up some limiting beliefs as children: I’m not a good reader, I’m not very smart, I don’t have a good memory, I’m not a good artist, I’m not pretty.

We pick up some limiting beliefs as adults: I don’t deserve to be loved, I could never quit this job and find something better, I can’t dance, I’m a fraud and it’s just a matter of time before my boss/co-workers/family/friends figure it out.

These beliefs are usually developed over time as we experience failures or emotional trauma. Often, we learn them from other people telling us who we are, and what we can and cannot do.

There are three especially destructive limiting beliefs I’ve noticed in just about every client I’ve coached over the last six years.

I call these the three big lies. Read More

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